וַיְבִאֶהָ יִצְחָק, הָאֹהֱלָה שָׂרָה אִמּוֹ, וַיִּקַּח אֶת-רִבְקָה וַתְּהִי-לוֹ לְאִשָּׁה, וַיֶּאֱהָבֶהָ; (בְּרֵאשִׁית כד:סז)
And Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah; he married Rivka and she became his wife; and he loved her. (Bereishis 24:67)
The Torah tells us that Eliezer met Yitzchak in the field upon his return from Aram-Naharaim. Eliezer then enumerated all the miracles and happenings which occurred in his quest to find a wife for his master’s son. There was even unbelievable siata d’shemaya just that he came to the proper address, and at the right time, to meet Rivka. All of this, and the miracles that occurred, point to the obvious conclusion: This was the proper wife for Yitzchak, and Yitzchak should unquestioningly accept this match which was “made in Heaven.”
Yet the Targum Unkulus tells us otherwise. He explains our pasuk that Yitzchak saw the way that Rivka conducted herself was identical to the way that Sarah conducted herself. Because of this, Yitzchak accepted her as his wife.
Rabbi Dovid Soloveitchik points out that a match—even one made in a spectacular fashion by G-d Himself—is not enough for one to use as a sign that this is the marriage he should enter. Rather, the actions of the potential spouse must be the deciding factor.
Rabbi Dovid Soloveitchik also brought out a similar point in last week’s parsha. There, the Torah tells us how Avraham abruptly took leave of speaking with Hashem in order to fulfill the commandment of hosting guests (hachnasas orchim). Chazal tell us that we learn from this that it is more important to fulfill the commandment to host guests than to commune with the Divine presence.
Rabbi Soloveitchik commented on this conclusion of Chazal: Possibly one would have thought the opposite! What better way to achieve a close connection with the Creator of the Universe than to speak with Him directly? Certainly attending to human guests would not seem to achieve the same result.
But, he concludes again, that we see that the greatest connection to Hashem is achieved by fulfilling the mitzvos of the Torah. A spectacular event, as spiritual or as fantastic as it may be—even speaking to Hashem himself—simply does not compare to a mitzvah!