Sometimes people write books to try to explain the differences between different cultures, highlighting different values, and where opinions differ from one group to another. There are times that such presentations are helpful in bringing order, so that a person can understand how to interact with those people. Yet at other times, one would prefer to avoid setting people apart because underlying differences in a seemingly homogeneous group may be painful.

Let us consider a family which was blessed with children who all had good voices. The family is proud of the gift bestowed upon them by Ha Kadosh Baruch Hu, and share in this together. If the situation arises that the father is asked to pick out which of his children has the best voice, the other children may feel “second rate.” They also have good voices, and feel hurt that they were not selected instead of their sibling. Every parent tries to avoid singling out one child at the expense of the other. Yet there are situations that the parent understands that it indeed may be worth the price.

Sometimes a leader is picked because somebody has to be at the head. It does not necessarily mean that this leader has superior qualities compared to the rest. An example of this are birds flying in “V formation.” The lead bird stays in his front position—which requires the most amount of energy of all the positions in the formation—for a certain period of time and then rotates with another bird. In this case, the bird at the front position is just a ‘regular’ bird.

Other times, the leader is picked because of the multiple talents that he has, such as: Vision; foresight, and the ability to interact with many different people at a much greater level than his peers.

Korach assumed that Moshe was picked just because “someone had to be a leader” (as Korach said, “kol ha’am kulam kedoshim”). As such, there should not have been a problem to ‘swap positions’ with Moshe, just as the birds swap their positions However, Hashem singled out Moshe to be the leader of the Jews because he was uniquely qualified for this position. This separation of Moshe from the rest of the Bnei Yisrael was necessary, but came with the possibility of jealousy, which could bring machlokes.

On the second day of Creation, Hashem split the waters, specifying certain waters to be higher waters and other waters to remain on Earth. This also had the unavoidable result of creating Machlokes, whose root literally means to split. The medrash (Bereishis Raba 4:6) tells us that on this day, Hashem did not write the words “ki tov,” because while the splitting was absolutely necessary, and this part of Creation is a good thing, this division of the waters resulted in the lacking of good, to the point that the word ‘Tov’ could not be used.

Before highlighting differences, we should consider whether it is worth the price that might have to be paid: The loss of ‘Tov’.